Tips for Mums to Gain Confidence Mum Essentials

Tips for Mums to Gain Confidence

Becoming a mother is a life-changing experience, filled with joy, love, and new challenges. After giving birth, it's common for mums to go through a period of adjustment as they navigate their new role and responsibilities. One challenge that many mums face is gaining confidence in themselves after giving birth, especially when it comes to their physical appearance and sense of self. In this blog, we will hear advice from real mums who have gone through this journey and have found ways to regain their confidence.

 

Advice from Sharon

Stylish mum

 

"After having my first baby 9 years ago, I was naive to think I would be straight back into my normal clothes and everyday life. I was pretty housebound for a couple of weeks and really felt lost, as I was someone who was always on the go! It wasn't until a health visitor mentioned some local baby classes. I was so nervous, not only about the way I looked but also because my baby had undiagnosed allergies and was prone to projectile vomiting and refusing to take her milk.

I was really worried about being judged. However, I dragged myself along to a class, and then eventually to another, and found that I felt so much better speaking with other first-time mums. I eventually made two new mum friends, and we would regularly meet for coffee and playdates.

These women really helped me find myself again. After my baby's allergies were finally diagnosed and we got her the right milk, I was also able to take her out in the buggy without the biggest screaming fit. So, we went on a lot of walks, got lots of fresh air, and did a bit of exercise, which made me feel real again".

 

Advice from Katie

 

"I would stop. Take a minute. Cry if you need to. Let it out. Then breathe. Really look inside yourself. Look at what you have created. Really look. And take some time to let that sink in. I

t’s not easy. And for some, it never is. But giving yourself a moment. In fact, as many moments as you feel you need. Remember, you are raising a new life. Or lives. A life or lives that you grew. Created. From love. You created life. Precious life.

Motherhood isn’t easy; it’s everything all at once, utterly overwhelming at times. But take the small moments that you’re given to resurface. Breathe. Be. Most importantly, let yourself feel everything. Know that you got it. Even when you feel you don’t. You do. And if you really feel you don’t, reach out. Sometimes a little help is all we need to continue on our journey as mothers. Believe in you. Trust in you. You".

 

Advice from Rachael

 

 

"First things first, I would remind them that this feeling is temporary. Mentally and physically, you have been through so much in pregnancy, birth, and bringing up your child(ren). It’s a massive toll, and you completely change as a person.

It’s a journey to get back to you, or should I say, a new version of you. We change massively once becoming mums, so remember that. I would start small, set yourself little targets to build your confidence. What do YOU like doing? Think, really think, what makes you tick. Do you love going to yoga, having a manicure, or getting into a really good book? Start doing something that makes you feel good again, whether that’s something in a group, with friends, or by yourself. Giving yourself that time will gradually increase your confidence.

We’re so focused on getting back to ‘normal’ after having a baby, being super productive, cleaning the house, entertaining the kids, keeping on top of life admin, we forget to make ourselves a priority at the top of that never ending list. We need to water our own cup, and to find those little joys that we love, to forget about ‘mum you’ for an hour or so and engage with YOU".

 

 Advice from Claudia

Mum and baby in coffee shop

 

"I find that one of the best ways to feel more confident is to take care of yourself. Getting ready for the day, having a good skincare routine and treating yourself to some new clothes that fit your new body are some of the things that can help you feel more like you! Remember to never loose sight of yourself, focus on the positive and enjoy every small moment of motherhood".

Advice from Kelsey

Mum and baby - Black and white scale

 

"For as long as I can remember growing up, I always wanted to have my own children and we are now blessed with two gorgeous babies. I love being a mum, being the one who is there every minute of the day at their side, the one who they turn to for comfort when they are sad and the one who they love unconditionally. However until very recently I have felt lost in the personality of being a mum, who I was before this no longer exists but who really am I when my children aren’t at my side? It took me a while to realise I was drowning in the mundane reality that is routine behind being a mum to two under two.

In order to find this new me I had to take time for myself, something I have really struggled to do for the past 2+ years. Whether this be going shopping alone, or even taking the time out to do my hair and makeup. Taking small steps, daily or even weekly to work on this new version of myself. Now I have found that my confidence is returning, I feel like a better person mentally because I am working on me too. Take each day as it comes, because some days I look in the mirror and I don’t know that person who is looking back at me. But the person I am now is that one I always dreamed of being, sometimes you just have to dig a little deeper to find her. Remember mama, to look after yourself too. You can’t pour from an empty cup".

Advice from Taiye

A black mum

 

"The best advice I can give to a mum (and a reminder to myself) is to be kind to yourself. New mums, don't judge yourself too harshly if you haven't snapped back to your pre baby body. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself time. Time to heal and recover, time to get into your new routine, time to bond with your baby. But most importantly, allow time for yourself, whether that's meeting a friend for a coffee, watching YouTube videos, or an extended skincare routine a couple of times a week".

 Advice from Emily 

 

“Remember you aren’t on your own! Remove yourself from places and situations that make you feel uncomfortable, and only do what makes you feel good! Remember Mumma, you grew your baby, you’re an incredible Mummy, but firstly, you are you!!"

Taking care of yourself is essential for your well-being and overall happiness. By making yourself a priority and taking the time to engage in activities that bring you joy, you are not only benefiting yourself but also setting a positive example for your children on the importance of self-care. Remember, you deserve to take care of yourself just as much as you take care of others. So go ahead, water your own cup, and find those little moments of joy that make you feel fulfilled and rejuvenated. You deserve it!

With love, 

Taiye, Rachael, Katie, Claudia, Kelsey , Sharon and Emily x

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