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How to Support Your Wife After Giving Birth - New dad role

Supporting Your Wife's Well-Being After Childbirth

Welcoming a new baby into the world is a joyous occasion, but it also brings significant changes to a couple's life, especially for the new mother. As her partner, your role in supporting her during this time is crucial for her well-being and the strength of your relationship. In this guide, we'll explore practical ways you can treat and support your wife after giving birth, ensuring she feels loved, valued, and cared for during this transformative period.


Prioritise Emotional Support

  • Understand that your wife may experience a range of emotions after giving birth, including joy, anxiety, and exhaustion. Be patient and attentive to her feelings.
  • Encourage open communication and create a safe space for her to express her thoughts and concerns without judgment.
  • Listen actively and validate her experiences, acknowledging the challenges she may be facing.

Things you can buy her to help - 

Journals, New mum Affirmation cards


Husband supporting Wife during pregnancy

Share Responsibilities

  • Recognise that caring for a newborn can be physically demanding and emotionally draining. Offer to share household chores, such as cooking, cleaning, and laundry, to ease her burden.
  • Take an active role in caring for the baby, including feeding, diaper changes, and soothing techniques. This not only helps your wife get much-needed rest but also strengthens your bond as parents.
  • Be flexible and willing to adjust your schedule to accommodate the needs of your growing family.

Additional things you can do - 

  • Hire a cleaner to help around the house
  • Ask family and friends for help

Provide Practical Assistance 

  • Offer to run errands, such as grocery shopping or picking up prescriptions, so your wife can focus on rest and recovery.
  • Arrange for additional support, such as hiring a postpartum doula or asking family and friends for help with childcare or household tasks.
  • Ensure your wife has access to nutritious meals and stays hydrated, especially if she's breastfeeding.

New dad cooking

Show Affection and Appreciation

  • Express your love and gratitude for your wife regularly. Simple gestures, such as bringing her breakfast in bed or writing her a heartfelt note, can make a big difference.
  • Compliment her on her strength, resilience, and dedication as a mother. Remind her that you're in awe of everything she's accomplished.
  • Make time for intimacy and connection, even if it means adjusting your expectations and being patient as your wife recovers physically and emotionally.

Encourage Self-Care

  • Remind your wife of the importance of self-care and encourage her to prioritize her well-being. Encourage her to rest when the baby sleeps, practice relaxation techniques, and engage in activities she enjoys.
  • Offer to watch the baby while she takes a soothing bath, goes for a walk, or enjoys a nap. Supporting her self-care not only benefits her but also strengthens your partnership.

Additonal things you can do for her 

  • Book her a post pregnancy spa day or buy items for spa day at home


Navigating the postpartum period can be challenging, but by offering your unwavering support and understanding, you can help your wife transition smoothly into her new role as a mother. Remember to prioritize her physical and emotional well-being, share responsibilities, and show your appreciation for everything she does. By nurturing your relationship during this transformative time, you'll lay the foundation for a strong and loving partnership for years to come.

With love, 

Mum Essentials

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